The clatter of hairdresser's scissors, the buzz of a typewriter, curls scattered across the floor, which were yours just a second ago. If this picture introduces you to the preinfarction state, then, for sure, you are the owner of envious hair that you consider to be your main decoration. But - a surprise! - in the modern world, challenging the traditional foundations in every possible area of life, it happens in a different way.
With a hairstyle, as well as with clothing or behavior, there is always the problem of choice. We divide all the options for the traditionally feminine and "patsansky." The division, of course, sounds a bit wild for our time - as if the guys do not wear long hair, deny the existence of a pink color, and do not know how to act up or flirt - but you understand what I mean, right? Say thanks to gender stereotypes.
So, what is the problem "patsanskih" stuff? Why do so few girls decide to go this way in style? Oooh, we have so many cockroaches in our head, ready to whisper the "correct" answer, that even the most courageous will think a hundred times!
Fear of changing yourself
It is relatively easy to shave under zero (at least partially) when you experiment with hair all your life: you lighten, you curl, you cut off in a creative impulse, and then you start to let go again. If you can identify yourself with this clan, then you probably remember more than once the self-equalized bangs and periodic appeals "Hey, boy" from childhood.
But if long curls with you from an early age, it is almost impossible to decide. Even a square will be quite difficult to exchange for a fashionable and stylish, but absolutely alien for you hairstyle.
Think: If you really feel that the change is overdue, but you are afraid to act radically, you can begin to partially go to the "dark side", having slightly shaved the hair at the temple or at the base of the neck. The length will remain with you, and you can always disguise the damage caused if you consider that it is not yours after all. And then who knows: perhaps gradually you will want to embody your plan completely.
Reaction of society
Our society is not yet accustomed to deviations from the “norm”, whose image has been created for decades and even centuries: whether it’s a short haircut on a girl or a boy’s long hair, there will always be someone who dares to ask you about tactless questions like Does your husband look at this? ”or with subring-ups like“ A boy with a hair like yours is walking out! ”. And to be honest, at times from sidelong glances, in which interest is mixed with incomprehension, you will get a little tired, and sometimes with a slight envy look at the chic hair of girlfriends. In short, the ultrashort hairstyle is clearly not for those who are very sensitive to public opinion.
Forget: We will not say that you should not care about other people's opinions. If a person says that he is not disturbed by the opinions of other people, then with the exception of some mental disorders, he lies. The fact is that to think about the reaction of society is absolutely normal for such a social being as a person, but regardless of whether you want to shock people or are afraid of condemnation, the fact remains: the majority of any change in your life will go deeper . The man threw a glance at you. The man was surprised. Man forgot. When you meet someone strange by your standards on the street, you do the same. They do it all, so don't worry too much about what people say.
Problems at work / school
In this regard, an extremely short haircut is like a tattoo, only a tattoo you will have a chance to hide, and with hair you have no options. Of course, in free and creative professions nobody will care about this, but if you are not deprived of plans for a career in a large company or ambitions in the scientific field, this could be a stumbling block.
Think: Here everything will depend on the authorities. People with more democratic views will be happy to accept a good professional, but most employers have fewer views, and if you have to work with clients in a serious sphere, then the chances of failure will grow exponentially. And if the bob in the workplace does not surprise anyone, then shaved whiskey or hairstyle a la Shelby-Darmody certainly make a lot of noise.
Fear of being alone
We are accustomed to believe that femininity is not only in behavior and ideology, but also in appearance, and the hair here plays almost the decisive role. In turn, femininity is the key to big love and a happy family, as in fairy tales from childhood. In a sense, there is not a single Disney princess with a three-millimeter “hedgehog” or at least an ultrashort bean, which means that princes are not provided for such.
Forget: Femininity in the traditional sense is a very strange concept, the significance of which for truly happy relationships is exaggerated. If the secret of success were long hair, dresses and skills of storing the hearth, then we would have long ago forgotten what a “divorce” is. Harmony is much easier to achieve if the partner is perceived primarily as a person, and only then as a man or a woman, and then more attention will be paid not to the embodiment of gender stereotypes, but to mutual understanding and common interests.
Point of no return
When experiments with hair are reduced to “they cut me exactly instead of a cascade,” you can level out the consequences of a bad experience in a rather short period of time, although, what can be hidden here, even such a small hairdressing failure can knock some of the fair sex out of balance and make them depressed. Now imagine that you decided on a very short haircut, and the result disappointed you. Growing up your hair at least up to a car can take about a year, and you can only dream of a spit in the next few years. Are you ready for this?
Think: If you tend to regret the decisions made and lose bad moments in your head again and again, then a short haircut can cause great frustration. This option is more likely for those who are not too serious about unsuccessful experiments, because no one can guarantee you that you will like yourself with a short haircut.
No one can decide for you what hairstyle you wear, but do not take it too seriously. In the end, it's just hair, and on the agenda a lot of other issues that require your attention. And by the way, most girls are very short and ultra-short haircuts, so if you made a choice in their favor, then go to the hairdresser!
Oksana Lushankina
Psychologist, Family Relationships. Specialist from the website b17.ru
shave - so that immediately
and why regret it, they grow back.
I cut my shoulder blades.
sorry for a long time)
I now have hair up to the shoulder blades, I want to get a haircut under the boy. I'm afraid that I will regret it (((and want and scary.
Sorry. There was hair below the shoulder blades - made bob with lengthening. It was beautiful, but tired to style, because her hair was naughty, and her long curls were beautiful. Now they have grown back, I will not have a haircut anymore!
Personally, I never regretted cutting my hair. From hair to priests did haircut under the boy. Then she grew up again. Happened and in a hairdressing salon unsuccessfully sheared. This is all fixable. Hair is not teeth. Another thing, if they burn their hair when they are dyed, but I do not paint, I wear my own color.
You, the author, just need to know if you want a short haircut, what kind of haircut it should be, if there is a good master in mind. If there are doubts about at least one of these issues, then it is better to leave such radical decisions aside.
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Mowed shortly in the 7th grade. Terribly regretted, since then do not even think about it.
I cut my hair at 17 years old. Not sorry, then grew. But there must be a very good skin, then it looks cool .. I don't have it very much.
Well this is what kind of dead psyche one must have in order to transform oneself into a peasant. A woman without long hair is ***. Author, sew yourself another member, what would surely be.
Short haircut emphasizes the shape and features of the face. If there are no problems with this, then it is possible to decide on an experiment (ex. Winona Ryder).
I regretted, my furry hair stood on end, I was like Einstein))) I would have cut my hair under the boy, if not for my silly hair.
very short - it goes very few who have a very correct face. Honestly, I do not understand girls naturalok who cut their hair short and dress like the middle sex. Well, of course, lesbians do it in their environment. And why ordinary? )
No, not sorry, I was to face
I don’t understand those who somehow condemn girls with short haircuts. If a person has such a hairstyle, why not? Besides, they sometimes get their hair cut due to poor health. For example, I had long hair, but they were terribly sick I had a short haircut, but what should I do? And I never regretted about it — who would like to constantly swallow the painkillers? And then they worked out like a boy, like a boy. Not necessarily. With a short haircut, and even baldly shaved for a boy, they are unlikely to be accepted)). And I'm certainly not the only one.
they were lower than the shoulder blades, they cut their hair very shortly - the mood was just not very good, everything was tired, I decided to start a new life.
honestly, I regretted later, there was an order of magnitude less male attention, and those who were said that I was very much like a boy, although I did not climb out of skirts and dresses.
I am growing up now (fourth month), but even the square still does not exist.
very short - it goes very few who have a very correct face. Honestly, I do not understand girls naturalok who cut their hair short and dress like the middle sex. Well, of course, lesbians do it in their environment. And why ordinary? )
I do not regret. I have a short haircut and the summer is comfortable, not hot. I think another year is so similar, then I will grow hair. It's not a problem for me to grow, my hair grows very quickly. And the same thing annoys.
I do not regret. I have a short haircut and the summer is comfortable, not hot. I think another year is so similar, then I will grow hair. It's not a problem for me to grow, my hair grows very quickly. And the same annoying.
Well, insert a cosmopolitan drive with hairstyles and attach options. more less it will be
how fast are they growing?
I, literally a couple of weeks ago, decided to cut my length (below the shoulder blades), I wanted Kare and finally did it! I thought for a long time, read, looked, asked - in the end, I still had to solve it myself :)
Now happy! Unlike long hair, model haircut (if you fit every time after washing your head, but you can’t be lazy about it) has an excellent shape !! The main thing is to master the basics of styling, desired or newly acquired haircuts - and the trick is in the hat! :)
At first, I just cut my hair short, then began to shave under the typewriter, or even under a zero machine. Male attention not only did not diminish, but it became more than when I had my liquid hairs that could not be styled. In general, the shape of the skull is lucky. The only negative - inadequate people who love to gawk.
At first, I just cut my hair short, then began to shave under the typewriter, or even under a zero machine. Male attention not only did not diminish, but it became more than when I had my liquid hairs that could not be styled. In general, the shape of the skull is lucky. The only negative - inadequate people who love to gawk.
they were lower than the shoulder blades, they cut their hair very shortly - the mood was just not very good, everything was tired, I decided to start a new life.
honestly, I regretted later, there was an order of magnitude less male attention, and those who were said that I was very much like a boy, although I did not climb out of skirts and dresses.
I am growing up now (fourth month), but even the square still does not exist.
No, the second time I cut my hair so much, I have an art-house bob) everything sticks out, I really like
but I have always loved experimenting with the image, we need an eternal "change of scenery"
I am very sorry. I cut my hair like a bob a month ago (((depr rolls, every week I make masks of burdock oil. I look at my hair and I want to cry. Already two men told me where your beautiful hair is (((((((((((
I once for all my life in a fit of idiocy cut my hair under a boy (in the summer before the holidays, so as not to suffer from the heat). The hair was then below the shoulder blades. For this, my thickest, hard, spinning hair brutally avenged me - there was what was called a “dynamic plot” on my head))) Only the tan was saved, the correct features of the face and the hair color were burned to the color of butter. As soon as I grew longer, I straightened them. then at least it looked godly. Only straightening was enough for 3-4 hours, then the hair was curled again in curls. In general, I grew it to the same length and tied it with experiments. And for my girlfriend, whose hair is straight and less thick - an elegant bean turned out to be salvation. She also did not dare for a short haircut for a long time. But the face immediately "began to play," and the hair seems thicker and more magnificent. So everything is individual.
sorry mk long grow now! 3cm on the head was, now grows, your guard .. nothing lies.
I regretted when I tried to grow several times, but due to the fact that the growers were ugly, she still cut them under the boy. I think that it is worth trying just because of the unusual sensations when you run your hand through the hair and there is a hedgehog, and it is not hot in the summer, it is not necessary to pack for a long time again. But -5 to femininity provided, or rather not even to my feelings (I felt just super, much super compared to long hair) but to the fact that attention from men became very good. few, or rather they somehow stopped responding at all.
Straight somehow funny to read some statements. :))))
All my life with a short haircut and not complaining about the lack of attention of men. :))))) Even too much of it, to be honest (therefore, others complain - jealousy is not good).: (((
And how many sexy stars with short stylish haircuts. Especially in France, but not only.
Although, of course, if except for long hair, there are no other signs of femininity, then yes, spit-to-waist is necessary. :)))))
I incited for 1, really like it, although my hair was lower than priests.
I cut my hair short and never regretted it. I am normal, but someone does not like something, you will find a way out
I don’t understand those who somehow condemn girls with short haircuts. If a person has such a hairstyle, why not? Besides, they sometimes get their hair cut due to poor health. For example, I had long hair, but they were terribly sick I had a short haircut, but what should I do? And I never regretted about it — who would like to constantly swallow the painkillers? And then they worked out like a boy, like a boy. Not necessarily. With a short haircut, and even baldly shaved for a boy, they are unlikely to be accepted)). And I'm certainly not the only one.
Although, of course, if except for long hair, there are no other signs of femininity, then yes, spit-to-waist is necessary. :)))))
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Reason number 1. Face shape
The shape of the face plays a key role in the question: to be or not to be a short haircut. A good styling can help to hide the imperfections of the exterior or, on the contrary, it will expose flaws for everyone to see. The most advantageous form of nature - oval. Owners of the correct oval can act more boldly in relation to their own hair - they go almost all hairstyles. For example, a spectacular bob haircut, slightly elongated on one side, like that of Victoria Beckham. And if you want to make the proportions more harmonious - cut the bangs, it will visually make the face not so elongated. Chubby women should try the pixie multi-layer and dynamic haircut. The face square will soften the square with light waves, but in short, you should not cut off the hair. Faces in the form of a "triangle" or otherwise in the form of a "heart" are steep curls, but not above the shoulders.
Reason number 2. Figure
The shape of the face is not the only physiological criterion that can influence the decision to safely cut off the hair. Before choosing a haircut, evaluate the physique! It is better for girls of plus size and owners of magnificent forms to avoid both short haircuts and very long hair. The same rule applies to women of short stature. A thin lady must add hair volume.
Rule number 3. Hair texture
Pay attention to the hair texture. Curly, hard or very thick hair is better not to cut short - most likely, they will start to curl even more and become heavy. And you have to spend too much time each day on their care. Thin strands are the opposite: the shorter the length, the thicker your styling will look.
Rule number 4. Character
Appearance can tell a lot about your personality. Think which way you want to present yourself. Soft, romantic curls? Dignified bean? Fun and perky pixie? The hairstyle should match your character, age, lifestyle, wardrobe and business image. In some companies there are quite strict rules for the appearance of employees. Will your boss like the image of an elf with long flowing hair or a bold skinhead beauty?
Reason number 5. Time for a change
Often a short haircut symbolizes the beginning of a new stage in life. As a rule, bold changes in the appearance of a woman are decided after global (and not always pleasant) events: parting with her beloved, professional failure, loss of a loved one or moving to another country. The hairstyle, in this case, is a very simple option to mark a new start, “start from scratch”. But! Be sure to make sure that your decision to cut your hair will be true from an aesthetic point of view. Most mistakes women make in the midst of turbulent emotions. Calm down and breathe deeply!
Reason number 6. Stylist opinion
A hairdresser you trust is the best friend of your hair. He can not only help you choose the right style for your face shape, but also determine if you are psychologically prepared for a radical change in appearance. A good master will tell you an alternative hairstyle that will give you the long-awaited feeling of change, rather than a bold haircut that you will hate.
Reason number 7. Revelation
Often, women admit that they learned a lot about their appearance and first felt really beautiful only after they had cut off their hair. The beautiful half of humanity can spend a lot of time to straighten long curly curls for years, confident that only this image adorns them. But at the very moment when they decide to significantly reduce the length of the strands - the natural beauty of their natural hair becomes a pleasant revelation and greatly facilitates the collection in the morning.
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